What you want or what you should?

This entry is something that I'm actually struggling with. After talking with my sister last night and studying Luke 9, the issue of doing what I want to do and what I should do has surfaced. In Luke 9:51-56 Jesus sends some messangers to a Samaritan village to set things up for him. When they were there they were rejected, not welcomed. When James and John saw this they asked Jesus if they should "call fire down from heaven to destroy them." Then of course Jesus rebukes them. After reading this and talking with my sister I was really convicted by this. We see that James and John wanted to act like most of us would want to. It is so easy to want revenge on people that have wronged us. When we believe we are right in a situation we tend to have this attitude that it's ok for us to act like that. James and John thought they were acting right. In 2 Kings 1 Elijah called down fire from heaven on the kings evil men, but we see that Jesus isn't asking that from us. Let's be real here, do you think that they needed to called down fire from heaven when God is standing right in front of them, like he couldn't take care of that problem if he wanted to?
What I feel that the Lord is communicating to me and us is that we need to not be like James in John in the sense of wanting revenge for the people that have wronged us. This is super hard, like I said before I struggle with this. When talking to my sister last night we both have been acting a way that we know we shouldn't be acting but we have been because we feel, and rightly so, that we are right and it's ok for us to act the way we do. We actually have a strong case to act the way we do. But does that matter? The answer is no! Jesus would say take your facts and case and through it out the window because that's not what I've called you to do, and that's not what I've shown you to do. That's the point I believe God is sharing with us, we need to stop acting the way we want to and act they way Jesus showed us to.
I don't know if this is something that you struggle with. Maybe people have wronged you and you just stopped talking to them and just completely threw them out of your life. Maybe you took the revenge approach, I'm not sure where you are or if you fall into this? I want to leave you with some scriptures and you can decide for yourself what's to next:
 ¹⁷ Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. Romans 12:17
⁹ Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult. On the contrary, repay evil with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing. 1 Peter 3:9
    ⁴³ “You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor^[a] and hate your enemy.’ ⁴⁴ But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, ⁴⁵ that you may be children of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. Matt 5:43-45
So my prayer for us today is that God would change our hearts and minds if we are doing what we want and not what God wants. I pray that we would repent of our ways and that we would allow God's ways to be our ways. I pray against condemnation if we feel guilty if we haven't been doing this. I pray for strenght and faith to walk in this truth, and for us to let God be God.